Borderline personality disorder is a psychological condition that makes it difficult to operate in everyday life because it changes how you think and behaves about yourself and others. When a person has BPD, their emotion seems to be all over the place. Everything feels unstable including their thinking, relationships, and occasionally their identity.
A strong fear of abandonment, difficulty tolerating being alone, and instability are a few of what people with borderline personality disorder go through. Even if they wish to have meaningful and lasting relationships, their intense emotions, impulsiveness, and frequent mood swings tend to push their loved ones away.
If you are someone who lives with a person suffering from BPD, you feel like you’re walking on eggshells. Living on an emotional rollercoaster with them on the wheels. They tell you you’re a bad person and that they hate you. You ask yourself “is this true? Is this my fault?”
The thing is, it's not your fault. Because they are distressed and enraged, they may be easily offended. Oftentimes, individuals often base facts on what they see in front of them, whereas people with BPD base their facts on their feelings. It’s black and white for them; the gray area simply does not exist.
The main thing to remember is that this will not go away no matter what you do. You or anybody else cannot fill that black hole of emptiness and rage; only treatment works.
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