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You Can Also Be Toxic Sometimes

Michaela Kaye Ambiong

The term "toxic" is frequently used these days. Toxic means something is harmful to a person when exposed to it. There are many toxicity levels; some things kill you right away, while others inflict long-term damage. The definition doesn't vary all that much when it comes to people. A toxic person is someone who harms others by their words and behavior, leaving people in a worse state than they were before meeting or interacting with them. This damage might sometimes be felt right away. Other times, it develops over time and with repeated exposure.


But have you ever considered asking yourself, "Am I toxic?"

Have you ever wondered if you are problematic for the people around you?


When it comes to self-care, all sorts of relationships, and having a happy life, the statement "remove toxic people from your life" is frequently used. Articles, books, and other advice encourage individuals to get rid of the negative vibrations, including evil people, poor quality food, and terrible habits. That advice is, in fact, beneficial. Because you only have one life, exposing yourself to toxicity in any form is detrimental. However, removing toxic individuals isn't enough; you must also be honest about your toxic behaviors.

It's not always what you say that's toxic; it's how you say it. It's sometimes how you treat others that makes a difference. It's not always your attitude that's toxic, especially if it's not directed towards the individual who's being harmed. Toxicity isn't always evident; it's about how you make others feel and the vibes you give off.


In the world, there are no good or bad people. People are complex beings. This means that even the nicest individuals have the capacity to be harmful to others. What matters is that you recognize toxic behavior, reflect on your own potentially dangerous habits, remember that toxic relationships are everywhere, and realize that you can alter such behaviors. It's not always them; sometimes, it's you.

Toxicity happens in many kinds of relationships, including romantic, friendship, family, and work relationships. It's essential to remember that just because you aren't toxic to your spouse, friends, or family doesn't imply you aren't toxic to other people like your coworkers. In reality, toxicity may manifest itself in every type of relationship. And just because you aren't toxic to one person or in one sort of relationship doesn't rule out the possibility of becoming toxic in another. It's critical to be honest about your behavior and unhealthy tendencies in all of your relationships, not just your romantic ones.


It's beneficial to understand that your behavior may be toxic and are willing to work on yourself to become a better person and affect the lives of others. It's difficult to accept that you're the problem. To understand that instead of analyzing why people don't want to be near you, you've played the victim. To be truthful about explaining why you did something wrong or selfish to another person. On the other hand, self-awareness is one of the most significant markers of maturity. It's challenging to apologize, be calm, and admit that you hurt someone rather than pretending that you didn't. Just keep in mind that we are all toxic in some way. However, some people are willing to stop the habit, while others are not ready. Maintain a safe distance and set boundaries from individuals who exhibit persistent toxic behavior, but be humble enough to understand that growth takes time and that it isn't all about you.


 

REFERENCES:

Bonham, E. (2018, August 17). Are You a Toxic Person? 10 Questions to Ask Yourself. Good


Therapy. https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/are-you-a-toxic-person-10-questions-to-ask-yourself-0817184


Brown, L. (2020, December 31). "Am I toxic?" – 25 clear signs you're toxic to others around you. Hack Spirit. https://hackspirit.com/am-i-toxic/


Shahrukh, S. (2021, August 12). What is Toxic behavior and how to deal with people with toxic people? Manhattan Medical Arts. https://www.manhattanmedicalarts.com/blog/2021/07/19/what-is-toxic-behavior-and-how-to-deal-with-toxic-people/#How_to_Stop_Being_a_Toxic_Person


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